HW 56

My topic is: what are the primary reasons people cheat?

Questions:
1. Do you think any part of a cheater feels bad?
2. In your opinion, what are the top 3 reasons people cheat?
3. Would you ever forgive a cheater?
4. Why do you think it is not as big of a deal if a woman cheats?

Dad:
1. Q: Do you think any part of a cheater feels bad?
A: It depends on the person and some people do it knowing it is wrong and just don't care because their desire is too strong but feel bad whereas other people have no sense that a commitment is important and feel like romance is like a buffet table where you can just take and not give back.
2. Q: In your opinion, what are the top 3 reasons people cheat?
A: Desire for sexual variety, the second reason is ego fulfillment, and a little excitement in life and thrill of romance because some people like drama in their lives. In other rare cases, the person just falls out of love with the other person but just doesn't want to tell them.
3. Q: Would you ever forgive a cheater?
A: It's impossible to say in advance and it depends what is going on in the relationship. It depends on nature of deception and how long it was going on. It also depends on how strong each person feels about the relationship. Life isn't that cut and dry. If we were strong, maybe I would but otherwise no.
4. Q: Why do you think it is not as big of a deal if a woman cheats?
A: I don't see a difference in that. It is both equally bad. Maybe people think that when a woman cheats it is because they have a jerk husband. I don't know why people would think one is worse than the other.

Friend 1:
1. Q: Do you think any part of a cheater feels bad?
A: No, because if they did, why would they cheat in the first place? I think that they would be sorry they got caught and nothing more.
2. Q: In your opinion, what are the top 3 reasons people cheat?
A: They cheat because they have a marriage or relationship that's collapsing and feel they need love, become bored of their significant other, and some people just feel entitled to have whoever.
3. Q: Would you ever forgive a cheater?
A: No because they weren't aware of the consequences that they did and they went behind my back.
4. Q: Why don't you think as big of a deal is made if a woman cheats?
A: No, because when a woman cheats, it doesn't happen a lot and when it does happen, people think its because they are lonely at home and not because they just feel like cheating.

Friend 2:
1. Q: Do you think any part of a cheater feels bad?
A: I think the ones who do it because they are unhappy in their marriage or relationship feel more bad than those who just do it for the hell of it.
2. Q: In your opinion, what are the top 3 reasons people cheat?
A: They fall in love with someone else, they want revenge on their partner and cheat, and the person just wants more people to be with and not be monagamous.
3. Q: Would you forgive a cheater?
A: It depends. If I felt the relationship was going nowhere than probably not I might just give up but if I really felt a deep connection with that person, I might try to save it.
4. Q: Do you feel as if it is portrayed that when a woman cheats, it's not made to be a huge deal?
A: I think it is a big deal either way but people think that a woman is the victim and to get out of a bad relationship, the only other option they have is to cheat. I don't think it's fair to do that because some women are like the cheating men and can't keep it in their pants.

I agree with everything that everyone said. I also think that people cheat because they are insecure about themselves and need affirmation in some way that they are still desired so they get that through cheating.