HW 30

One big idea of "cool" is that everyone wants to do it. As long as we have media and technology and other people telling us what the latest, newest thing is, we will always have cool. People are considered accepted when they follow these rules and everyone wants to be like them because part of being "cool" usually means you have a lot of friends. One can deny that they have always tried to go "against cool" but that is not true because no matter what we do, something is considered cool, for instance tattoos or piercings. I was thinking about the question: does emptiness in some people cause them to do or behave in a more "cool" way to be accepted and fill in that emptiness or does the "cool" just add to the emptiness?
As i was doing research, I found psychiatrist Anna Freud's mother and child separation theory to be good and I agreed with it. That theory states that if a mother and child are separated at womb, it could really have a great effect on the child and how they will react and behave in life-especially with their mother. Here is a quote: “I therefore decided to present some of her ideas on the importance of the mother during the child's earliest years in the development of a ‘psychological’ object, culminating in the attainment of object constancy by the time the child reaches his second birthday, an achievement which is of great importance in permitting the child to go on to develop human relationships with all the emotional richness and complexity with which we are familiar.”

This quote states how mother/child separation really usually begins during the "terrible twos" and if parents don't show attention to their kids, then that will most likely affect how the kids will be with their parents when they are older and when the kids have kids. Some kids will also do "bad" things or things to get that needed attention from other adults in their life. They then start to do "cool" things to get noticed and attention which all relates back to emptiness. But if they want attention and they do "cool" things to achieve that, then they might feel more empty because they aren't being true to themselves and if they aren't showing their true selves, they might be feeling emptier than before. All of these things relate back to each other and this made me wonder if everything cool or not cool" we do revolves about what society and our peers want of us?